I think there’s something crazy about love. And not an excellent type of crazy. Somehow it seems that 95% of enough time love doesn’t perform out. Whether it’s splitting up or pursuing after a break up, love seems to cause more trouble than its value. Here’s what’s crazy, we keep returning for more. I think that’s what I want to discuss these days.
Well punch this off I think it’s essential to discuss “the track” or that driving emotion/feeling that causes us to like other individuals and want to become passionately engaged with them. Regardless of what happens when we like someone we do all we can to make them like us returning. This is the first issue, creating them like us returning. When we try to convince someone that they like us it really isn’t genuine. It’s artificial and is planned to fall short. It’s like informing yourself you aren’t oversensitive to peanut butter and then eating a spoonful of it only to, normally, be motivated to the medical center for allergenic treatment. If we really desired the appropriate interest we would hold out until we discover someone we like who liked us returning without our convincing? But unfortunately how often does that actually happen? Hardly ever, which is why love is not able so often?
Jumping returning in record to fall of 2012 I was doing this identical factor. I liked this lady, we can call her Leslie. So I liked Leslie a lot, we got along really well and had a lot in typical. So after a while I thought maybe I should tell her how I sensed in the wishes that she also distributed those emotions with me. Mustering up my bravery I informed her and she said she didn’t, but the next day she called me and said she did but she just didn’t know what she was considering. That really was my big error, was recognizing that unusual reaction. If she really had liked me she would have already know that, right? Well after about a week or so I get an itemized text from Leslie that generally informed me that was a lie and she didn’t really like me. Unnecessary to say I was mashed. Often periods the music “All Too Well” by Taylor Immediate comes to ideas.
So with regards to existing periods, I kind of like this new lady. The issue is that from that experience (and others I’ll discuss later) I’m type of scared to improvement with anything. I know for a reality she prefers me, yet I still have these surfaces designed up that I can’t seem to take down. This is the worst!!!!! I really dislike the point that decades after previous connections I still have problems that they triggered.
I have this terrible habit where if I’m sad or frustrated about something I just sleep it off or neglect it instead of suffering from it. I used to always think that once I obstructed if off I was over it, but now that I’ve started recognizing that I have so many surfaces up I wonder if I ever really get over anything or if my addiction of neglecting my problems lastly capturing up to me. Another issue with this addiction is that I think it’s causing my improving stress which hasn’t been fun.
Basically, I think I just need to be more ok with starting myself up to individuals. Type of providing individuals with the advantage of the doubt rather than instantly supposing they will damage me (which they probably will in the end). But possibly it’s value a chance of getting damage to be in a satisfied connection with someone over being secure, alone, and single. Also I think that when I have an issue I should deal with it, let it damage and then maybe I will be able to get over it better than I am doing now.